Seriously, there is so much wrong with the whole concept of dieting that I don’t know where to begin.
Let’s start with the word itself. Just like with “losing” weight, the word “diet” is something we want to get rid of. I mean look at the first three letters…
Who wants to die? No one. Isn’t the whole point of dropping the weight and eating well, to live?
Every time we DIEt we kill off a little part of ourselves. We kill off the belief in our ability to become the size we want, we kill off the belief in ourselves that we can achieve our goals, and we kill off so much confidence that it is not funny.
How many times have you started a DIEt only to wind up feeling defeated? Feeling that if only you had more will power you could make this happen. If only you could have motivated yourself to do more, eat less or just resisted that cake, then it would have all been alright.
How many times have you just thrown your hands in the air and said “Well that’s it, it’s too hard and I must be designed to be fat forever”
“Why on earth am I starving myself and I have not lost anything?”
Every time we DIEt, we kill off so much and we don’t even realize it.
That stops today. From this point forward, you will never again DIEt!
Got me?! Yes! Now just to make sure we stop using the word DIEt, I want to show you how you are actually fighting against your body when you go on one of these restrictive eating plans.
Have you ever tried to get a toddler to do something they don’t want to do?
Or have you ever tried to make an animal move when they are determined not to?
Both toddlers and animals dig their heals in and refuse. No amount of force can make them budge. I mean seriously. I have been in a heated discussion with my boys when they were little, which broke me. I was the one in tears pleading for them to do what I asked.
Then you realize that if you just worked with them and found out what motivates them, they will do what you want them to do. Joyously. All of a sudden not only are you not fighting with them anymore but they are doing what you wanted them to do, and chances are, they are happy to do it for you.
Trying to force you body to do what you want it to, by going against what it wants, is the exact same thing.
If you have fed your body a certain type of food for any period of time, it has gotten use to that. So when you suddenly take it away, your body craves it and will let you know with almost uncontrollable urges. Then, when you don’t give in, it punishes you with pounding headaches and mood swings that will make the people around you either want to punch you in the face or feed you cake.
You see, your body wants what it wants. End of story. You get urges for a reason. Does that mean you will be forever craving sugar for example? Well yes and no.
Yes, because there will be times when we want something sweet… but only occasionally… and that is ok. No, because once you start offering you body healthy nutrition, it begins to crave that over all the other foods that are basically nutrition-less.
For example: I was a big soda drinker. Coke was my soda of choice. I would try over and over again to give it up. I would quit drinking it and instead drink water like I was supposed to, but what would follow were those pounding headaches. Plus, I was always extremly tired. I didn’t have any other caffeine in my diet, as I don’t drink tea or coffee, so I got a double whammy of no sugar and no caffeine. Then guess what would happen? Yep. I would give in and drink a Coke which would began the whole cycle over again.
Well, that was before I realized that I was forcing my body to do something it wasn’t ready for. What I really needed to do was work with it. How did I do this? Simple. I added in water first.
By this I mean, if I was thirsty, I would drink a big glass of water, then if I still had a craving for soda, I would have a mouthful or so of Coke. My thirst was quenched first and all that was left was to satisfy the craving. Now when I started doing this, something amazing happened. After a very short time my body actually started craving the water. So when I was thirsty, it was not the soda I craved, it was the water because that is actually what my body NEEDED and WANTED.
This little habit is something I do quite often. You see I didn’t just stop one day and never look back. There are times when I still drink nothing but soda. These times are rare but they do happen. This last time, I drank nothing but soda until the day after Christmas, and then it was time to get “back to normal”. So I just started drinking water again. I still had a couple of mouthful of soda every now and then, but all of a sudden it tasted gross and I was not interested. No headaches, no mood swings and no will power needed. It was just the way it was meant to be and that was that. These are the types of things I can’t wait for you to learn how to do for yourself as you continue on your own super sexy journey!
When you are told you can’t have something, you want it even more.
If you are anything like me, if someone tells you that you can’t have something, or you can’t do something, then you want to do or have it even more. I mean, you may have never wanted it in the first place but the minute someone tells you that you can’t, well you want to do or have it anyway.
This is what happens when you are given a list of things you “can’t eat”. The fact that you can’t eat them, simply makes you want to eat them more. Chances are you were not even thinking about eating them before, but now you can’t stop thinking about them.
This also comes back to the way you brain works. Your brain does not pay attention to words such as don’t. It only pays attention to what it is being told to focus on. That is why it is so important to carefully choose the words you think and speak.
For example: If I tell you not to think about chocolate cake…. “Whatever you do, don’t think about chocolate cake”. Or, “You cannot think about a big moist slice of chocolate cake. Just stop thinking about it now”. So tell me, what are you thinking about right now? Chances are it is chocolate cake. But I told you not to.
This is what happens when you are given a list of foods you can’t have anymore. You want them and think about it a lot because you can’t have them. You want them even more, and every time you tell yourself to stop thinking about it, It becomes more of an obsession.
Plus, let’s face it, who is going to stop you from eating any of it?
What if instead of thinking you can’t have those foods, think “I can if I want.” Then you have this amazing thing called a CHOICE!
Such a simple thing but yet so powerful. You see, when you give people a choice, they feel in control. Which is exactly what you are. You are in control of your life, your body and your weight. It may not feel like it – but I assure you that you are. Now you can choose. Plus it gets even better. You can choose to forgo those food items because it simply is not what you really crave, and will not get you to where you want to go. Or, you can choose to have it and really dig in and enjoy it to the max.
What?! I can actually enjoy the foods I love and that I think I shouldn’t have? Yes, you can. How? Because it is just food. There is no such thing as good or bad. There are different degrees of nutrition but at the end of the day, it is just food. So if we view it as just a food and eat it slowly, enjoying every bite, not only would we eat less of it, we would eliminate the guilt of thinking we shouldn’t have it.
I mean how many times have we eaten something so fast that not only did we not actually taste it, but we got through the whole thing without even realizing we ate it all? Like reaching for another bite and wondering where it all went. Then we go through the whole guilt cycle and either punish ourselves or we just give up and go on a binge.
No more of that. If you want it, have it.
- Are you just hungry?
- Do you crave it?
Take your time to eat slowly and eat only a small portion – enough to satisfy your taste buds. No guilt!
We will go into eating a little later but you can begin to see where we are headed.
If you cut back on what you are eating and you feel hungry or deprived, your body goes into starvation mode.
For as much as we have evolved as human beings, our bodies are still very primal. Basically we have two main modes. Feast and famine.
Before we lived in this world of abundance, we use to have to hunt for our food. There would be times when we had more than enough to eat and then there would be times when we didn’t have enough to eat. Our bodies are designed to keep us alive. That’s its job. Survival. In times of feast our bodies would simply burn off the extra food. Your body knows when it doesn’t need extra, so there is no point in holding on to it. However, in times when food is hard to come by, your body knows it has to survive and to do this it stubbornly holds onto any fat reserves you have. Even after you’ve had enough to eat, for a while your body would continue to create fat reserves just in case… but as soon as it knows you are in feast again, it lets it all go.
Your mind may have developed as our technology has improved, but your body is still the same. It’s only job is to keep you alive. When you go on a DIEt and restrict what you eat for a long period of time, it begins to hold onto the fat you have in order to survive. Not only does it hold onto this fat but when you go off your DIEt, it continues to build on these fat reserves so that if you ever go into starvation mode again (of which it has no idea whether this was self inflicted or not) , then you have plenty of fat to keep you alive. This why when people go off of DIEts they find themselves regaining all of the weight they thought they got rid of, plus they put on a little something extra for good measure.
It is not just a lack of food that causes this response in your body. It is the lack of money, the lack of love, or anything else you may have a deep but thwarted desire for. We will address this more later.
Can you begin to see that as we DIEt, we are trying to force our bodies to bend to our will? You may win the battle but I guarantee, you will lose the war. Instead of forcing your body to drop the weight by DIEting, how about you learn to work with it to drop the weight and become naturally thin?